"Why do you say that Sophie?"
"Well she gets the bestest room, and gets to spend more time with you and gets to do nothing!"
From the mouth of a six year old...and so it prompts me to another update on the journey of Realising Ruby.
Sophie could be focussed on what Ruby can't do, but instead she chooses to see the best of what Ruby has and can do. If a six year old can do this...why does it pose such a strain for adults to do? Is it due to the fact that as we grow we are conditioned and refined to focus on facts, be sensible, lose your imagination, lose sight of what it means to just enjoy life...whatever life throws at you? Is it the fact that we are constantly told to get an education, get a good job, house, car, pay off mortgage, have a family, work hard whilst building a strong united family unit, squeeze holidays into a few weeks a year, feel guilty should you wish to take a day to yourself, feel bad if your child stays home from school, work all hours of the day to just keep up to date with work, then start the cycle of rousing on your children to do their homework, even if they are only five years old. What is the world coming to?
Of course it is important to secure a job to enable you to lead the life you dream of, but does the dream include the job you are doing?... as you will spend the majority of your days at work! I have heard ever so too often that to be in a job which doesn't feel like work is an amazing opportunity and they are so very lucky. Why does luck have to be the only answer? Why can't we start to take more control over our vision, mission, choices and passion? It all starts with recognising the fear of what prevents you from pursuing your dream, then let it go.
"I lay on the bowsprit, facing astern, with the water foaming into spume under me, the masts with every sail within the moonlight, towering high above me. I became drunk with the beauty and singing rhythm of it, and for a moment I lost myself- actually lost my life. I was set free! I dissolved in the sea, became white sails and flying spray, became beauty and rhythm, became moonlight and the ship and the high dim-starred sky! I belonged, without past or future, within peace and unity and a wild joy, within something greater than my own life" Redfield, J & Murphy, M & Timbers, S 2010, God and The Evolving Universe. This, to me, is where we need to delve into in order to just let go and be who we want to be. To not allow others to influence or hold back your passion in life.
I have come across so many individuals battling through times of hurdles, heartache, struggle, loss and the unknown. In my personal opinion it is the fear of what if, what if I don't do enough, what if I am doing too much, what if I am on the wrong track, what if no one accepts what I am doing? The list goes on and on. LET IT GO!
Of course, if I could do every single therapy with Ruby...I would, If I could travel the world to get the best medical care for Ruby...I would, If I could find a job AND provide the 24 hour care for her I would, however I have learnt to let these weighty thoughts I dragged around with me go...so I did and continue to just let them go! Instead I live in the moment, embracing what we do have together, living a simple life as far as appointments go, making choices of what is most valuable at that point in time, which people you want surrounding you and your family, what makes you comfortable and content with your day to day living. It sounds so simple, however before this comes the fear part and then the letting go!
In my personal circumstance, since I made the decision to let go, I have only seen Ruby go from strength to strength and the bond between sisters blossom each and every day.
Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.”
― Ann Landers
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